I've found that there are 2 types of equations when it comes to the relationship department (no surprise there) The Single equation and the "taken" equation:
The Single Equation - There are 2 types in which people fall into: 1+0=1 and 1*0=0.
1*0=0 - Back in the day, I fell under this category as do many people. This category refers to people that NEED a relationship. These people simply can't or don't function well at all being single. This is obvious by those who constantly are in a relationship and don't stay single for any loner that a week. Fortunately (or maybe unfortunately) I paid my dues to this equation in a different way. It only took one relationship for me to realize, I definitely don't NEED a relationship. When you NEED one, you (more often than not...hence the new partner every other week) end up with the wrong person. As I said, I was definitely with the wrong person for 14 months before I finally woke up and said "I'm so better off alone."
1+0=1 - The healthy way of being single. You are single and not ashamed of it. You know how when you see commercials on TV or hear married people talk, the word single is a synonym for "poor guy/girl. They aren't complete yet or happy." This is where I am now and have been for quite some time. I was happy for a while being single, although it's been almost 3 years since my last relationship, I feel like I am ready to date again. The different between this equation and 1*0=0 is that I want one and not need one. I am waiting to find the right guy, not just grabbing one just to say "I've got a boyfriend." That can only get you through his rehab treatments so long.... :)
1+1=2 - The "I'm taken" relationship. Of course this could be sub-divided so many different ways. This is where I would like to end up and hopefully the right guy is out there. We'll see, but I do feel that me personally, I am ready inside and out to pursue a nice, long, healthy relationship. But until the right prospects come along, I am enjoying being a member of the 1+0=1 family.
-E
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